Nearly ever gay man in New York has had the thought that “everyone has a boyfriend but me! ” The truth is, of course, that there’s likely nothing wrong with you, but there is a lot wrong with how people date in NYC. Are you occasionally overly focused on personal pleasure or material acquisition? The absolute best way to meet someone to date is to be out into the world, doing things you enjoy.
In New York or elsewhere, a date can so often be a setup for failure; we are typically sitting down with a relative stranger working feverishly to put forward our most attractive, intelligent self, while at the same time scoping out the other person to see if they might be a fit…and to boot, we’re supposed to look casual and relaxed while doing it! Go volunteer at a soup kitchen or homeless shelter. Make a list of things that give you pleasure and find opportunities to go out and do them.
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Instead of phone calls, there’s the cryptic text message; instead of maturely calling things quit, there’s ghosting (or worse, breaking up via Snapchat); and instead of blind dates, there is a veritable sea of dating apps to navigate. The stories will make you laugh, make you cry, and perhaps inspire your own search for love.
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My best friend, who looks like the racially ambiguous lovechild of Brad Pitt and Pocahontas, waves her phone at me in righteous indignation. Several of my “classically attractive” friends are pissed.
But in New York (the most expensive city in the country and home of countless image-centric industries) we are encouraged to value the opposite: individuality, the maintenance of external appearance, and the acquisition of wealth. Many people who set aside the project of dating describe feeling a huge weight being lifted off their shoulders. As we enter into the world in a more relaxed, natural way, we find that it’s easier to meet people, easier to connect, and easier to be the best version of yourself.
On top of it all, the millions of people living on top of each other in NYC creates a false sense of expendability…how many of us have seen potential dating prospects disappear in the blink of an eye? Instead of dedicating energy to navigating the difficult world of gay dating, I suggest these two tips: 1.
My eye color isn’t interesting, and my hair is always feral.
I’m not ugly, but I don’t have much beauty privilege (and make no mistake, beauty privilege yields tangible rewards). “I don’t have to.” [Go ahead, ladies, make the first move.