Worth noting (since somebody will bring it up in the comments) is that the mistakes that hold you back aren’t about technique (leaning in when talking to people, too much physical contact) or planning (forgetting to check logistics). Before you even approach someone or sit down at your first date, these are the problems that make dating so much more difficult than it needs to be One of the perils of being a geek is that we live in our own heads. We tend to assume that things are always more than they seem whether it’s an SAT question – “That comparison of cow is to goat as BLANK is to BLANK can’t just be because they’re land mammals… This is never more clear than when you see someone playing “Does she like me or not?maybe it’s because they’re both domesticated and give milk… ” They start reading the tea leaves, examining a woman’s behavior as though it were the Zapruder film, looking for tiny clues that would give us insight into what she really means when she says she’s busy that weekend.
Pick her up or meet her at a place that doesnt give away where youre headed.
Failure to do so is likely to be interpreted as lack of genuine interest or inability to get his act together – neither of which bode well for a long and happy relationship.3) Talking about his ex’s We all have baggage.
Some, just a small carry-on – others, a steamer trunk.
The following is a list of ten dating mistakes men make that quickly send your hope of a possible ongoing relationship into the crapper (Sadly, you’ll probably recognize more than a few of these from past dates-gone-wrong).
1) Trying to move things along too quickly Very few things are as much of a turn-off as a guy who’s discussing plans for dates seven, eight and nine, as the appetizers are being served on date one.